Saturday, May 13, 2017

Mom did it

My mom had me when she was very young, I always joke with her that she and I grew up together, when in reality she was forced to grow up the day I was born, I am one of the lucky ones who still have their mother and I don't take this lightly, Happy Mothers day Mom.

Mom had three children when my Dad left her to basically raise us on her own, I didn't realize it then but now I can see how hard life was for her, I could say "hard for us" but she made sure that we never suffered.

I remember fried egg sandwiches for supper or just a pot of grits for breakfast, polk salad, have you ever eaten polk salad? I remember it growing wild in the ditch and on the back of the property we lived on, a lot of times this was supper.

My point is that Moms do what they have to so we won't go hungry.

I clearly remember asking Mom why she wasn't eating with us, she always said that she wasn't hungry and would eat later, looking back now I know she didn't eat so we could, Mom did it, she starved herself so we wouldn't.

All Moms sacrifice in one way or another and most times we don't even know they are doing it.

My Mom raised us all to be respectful and we all grew up just fine, she still takes care of us when needed and we take care of her when she will allow it, I know that I wouldn't be here nor the person I am without her. I Love you Mom.

The first time I met Cindy's Mom, we were in the process of moving in together, we had already discussed marriage but hadn't let the cat out of the bag yet.

The first thing Cindy's Mom ever said to me was "Do you have any intention of making an honest woman of my daughter" I'll never forget the look on her face and I love that she was so forward with the fact that her daughters happiness was very important to her. I Love you Mom.

About the last thing Cindys Mom ever said to me was when she was laying on the hospital bed hospice had brought into the house, I was standing next to the bed talking with her when suddenly she closed her eyes and let her head fall to the side, I was startled and said "Mom" she opened her eyes and looked straight at me and yelled "Boo, Gotcha" she laughed about that and I laughed with her.

We lost Cindy's Mom back in 2011, she was actually holding Cindys hand as she took her last breath, but she is not gone, we still celebrate her memory and love her for the determination she had to keep her children safe, I know she made sacrifices for her children and taught them right from wrong because I see her mannerisms in Cindy, and I know Cindy is a wonderful Mom because she was raised right and taught well, I Love Cindys mom for who she was and for passing that down to Cindy, and I Love Cindy for who she is exactly how she is.

For all the Moms out there I want to wish you a Happy Mothers day, for those of us who still have our Moms give them a hug or a call and tell them that you Love them.

This also goes for you who were raised by someone other than your biological Mom.

Grandmothers, Sisters, Aunts, Cousins, Foster, Adoptive, Step or whomever, whether blood relative or not they are still your Mom, they love you like their own otherwise they wouldn't have helped to raise you. Happy Mothers Day to you.

They say it takes a village to raise a child and I believe this wholeheartedly, think of how many children you have come into contact with, no matter how much time you have spent with this child, part of you goes with them, advice, a suggestion, a hug, a smile, or simply the acknowledgement that they are there can be remembered for a lifetime, whether you have children or not, you have helped raise more than you realize. Happy Mothers day to you.

And for those who have lost their Mother, think back and remember the happy times, remember how much she loved you and the things she did to make you laugh, tell her you Love her whether out loud or in thought, as long as you remember her she is never really gone.

Happy Mothers Day Ladies, without your love we would all be lost.

How do you celebrate Mothers Day?

34 comments:

  1. What a great post and lovely tribute to the two of the three special moms in your life. (I'm counting Cindy in there.)

    My mom has been gone since 1983 and I still miss her. I love what you said about "it takes a village..." I believe that with all my heart. I saw my mom give so love to other people's kids---kids who had abusive or neglectful parents. I see one of my nieces follow in her footsteps.

    We all need to celebrate the women who have influenced our lives in positive ways tomorrow.

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    1. Thank you Jean, yes it does take a village, when the kids were still home we never knew who was showing up for supper, rarely was it just our kids, there was always a line, and Cindy always stretched the food to feed them all, half those kids even grown still call her Mom.

      Your Mom sounds like she was a wonderful woman, and I feel you are like her in many ways.

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  2. Jimmy, this is one of the sweetest Mother's Day tributes to the special ladies in your life, and to mothers everywhere. I lost my mom over 20 years ago and still miss her. We always celebrate with a quiet day - my choice - and will spend part of it with our son and daughter-in-law.

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    1. Thank you Denise, isn't it something how fast 20 years can pass, your Mom will always be right there in your heart, it is a blessing to remember her.

      A quiet day sounds good and your son and daughter in law visiting just makes it better.

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  3. What a lovely tribute to moms everywhere!
    One of my boys is bringing Chinese 'take-out' for lunch.

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    1. Thank you Mam, Chinese take-out, Cindy would go for that also.

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  4. Men often have to be tough, but Moms are a special kind of tough!

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    1. Amen Joe, you hit the nail on the head there

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  5. Beautiful tribute, Jimmy. I've got a lump in my throat. Your mom sounds like a beautiful woman, inside and out. And I love the story of Cindy's mom freaking you out!

    We don't really celebrate Mother's Day at our house. I've told my kids that, because of them, every day is Mother's Day for me. It's true, I don't need anything else :)

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    1. I'm honored Abby, thank you she is a beautiful woman and Cindy's Mom was also.

      Everyday being Mothers Day for you is a great way to see it, I like that.

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  6. This is wonderful, Jimmy. I'm now wondering about Polk salad!
    I have never had a close relationship with my mother. It makes me feel bad, knowing how others wish they still had a Mom to call. I do my best to respect her and I will visit tomorrow with flowers.

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    1. Hi Bijoux, it's been a long time since I have eaten polk salad, it was similar to greens, it must have tasted good because I don't remember it being bad, it was free ha ha.

      I know it's hard to have a relationship with someone you haven't been close with, I'm proud to see you visiting her with flowers, that is a good thing and shows the kind of person you are, one I'm happy to call a friend.

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    2. I always thought it was 'poke' salad because you poke around in the garden and see what's ready to eat. It's what I read in novels.

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    3. It very well could be River, I just looked it up and see spellings both ways, didn't research it before was just going off my memory ha ha

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  7. For mother day we will be going into Spokane to see Bart. But also I got my daughter in laws a little something for mothers day.
    Coffee is on

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    1. Hi Dora, it will be good for you to see Bart, your daughter in law will be surprised with her gift.

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  8. We've already celebrated Mother's Day here in the UK but I hope all you American Moms have a great day!

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    1. Hi Joey, thank you for the Mothers Day wishes for all of our Moms, it's good to have you here.

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  9. What a beautiful post Jimmy and what a fortunate man you are to have had such lovely moms in your life. My sweet, caring Mom passed when I was a teen but my father chose well once again and I had a long friendship with my step mom. Even had a great mother in law who always took my side. They are all gone now but will never be forgotten.

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    1. Hi Patti, you were blessed with great Moms I see, and Moms like these will always be with you.

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  10. That was beautiful. Better than a material gift!

    I lost my mom two years ago. I still feel her around me every day. I have lots of old blog posts about her, and the memories make me laugh out loud at some of the things Mom did.

    We are headed to the northeast Oklahoma casinos on Mother's Day. I'd like to say that my boys and husband planned the perfect holiday gift for me...but I'm the one who scheduled it, without even realizing it fell on Mother's Day. At least both my college boys are joining me!

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    1. Hi Val, it's good you have memories of your Mom that make you laugh, still feeling her around you just shows how close you were.

      Being a good Mom includes making plans when the rest of us fail to do so, glad your boys are going to be there to laugh out loud with you, have a great time.

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  11. I enjoyed your tribute to your mom, Cindy's mom, Cindy, and the rest of us! The story of your mom raising you and your siblings alone is especially touching.
    You've brought emotion to all of us reading this post, so their comments are touching, too.

    I'll be visiting Mom who is an hour and a half away - not far. My family and I will cook dinner for her and my stepfather.

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    1. Hey Anita, Thank you my friend, I appreciate your kind we.

      It's great that you are spending time with your Mom tomorrow and cooking for her too, that is so nice.

      It's good to see you Anita

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  12. Very nice tribute to all the Mums you know and even those you don't. I don't remember doing anything special for Mothers Day when I was little, then Mum left when I was seven. When my kids were small I often got breakfast in bed on Mothers Day which they would carry in on a tray and then sit on the bed and help me eat it all. Now I spend mothers Day quietly at home, the kids know I don't like a fuss so they send text messages and cards. My oldest two have kids of their own so those grandkids spend the day spoiling their mum.

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    1. Hi River, I can just see the little ones bringing in a tray of breakfast for you then sitting to help you eat it, this sounds like such happy times.

      Yes the kids do grow up and start their own traditions with their own children, and we sit back and smile with the memories of the breakfasts in bed when they helped you enjoy it, thank you for sharing this wonderful memory.

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  13. Reminder to me, look up Polk to check on what it is.
    Our Mothers Day was a while back. I don't think the people here celebrate it as much as you do in your country. I did have a card and a phone call though. My own mother and father are long gone but I always remember them on their respective celebratory days.

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    1. Good morning Valerie, it's nice to remember your parents like this, find yourself sitting and smiling on a happy memory, a card and a call is good also once the kids are grown, it's nice when they remember.

      When you look up polk salad also check poke salad, River brought to my attention the spelling difference, I didn't research it earlier just went from memory.

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  14. That was so beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. I've been thinking about my Mom all day.

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    1. Hi Delores, thank you so much I am honored.

      I hope you have a few good thoughts and smiles while you are thinking of her.

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  15. Oh, that brought back memories! Had plenty of fried egg sandwiches for breakfast growing up and egg salad sandwiches for dinner. The big thing at my house for dinner though was beans and rice. It sort of faded from the menu eventually, so much that when my family and I did the trip to Puerto Rico with my daughter's school group back in 2014 I freaked out when the cater served us beans and rice. This might sound weird but it was literally like see and old friend again.

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    1. I still love a fried egg sandwich, isn't it funny how foods like this or the beans and rice can take you home again.

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  16. My mom is still alive, but she lives in Germany and I haven't seen her in many years. I talk to her on the phone every so often. My mother-in-law passed away in February...she is the mom I really miss.

    Beautiful tribute to the moms in your life!

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    1. It's nice that you can stay in touch with your Mom in Germany, any plans to go there in the future?

      Sorry for the loss of your Mother in law I know how hard that can be especially when you are close.

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