Life has a way of changing, people you know and love vanish from your life leaving you with a hopeless feeling of loss, and others come into your life filling you with hope and joy, the struggle within yourself can get your emotions so mixed up that you can actually overlook the people right in front of your face while searching for the ones who will never be there again.
I have lost a lot of loved ones due to death and there is absolutely nothing you can do to bring them back, remembering the good times and laughing at the pranks and jokes these loved ones pulled are blessings, there are loved ones who taught us how to live a full life, they taught us to read the Bible, respect our elders, keep our elbows off the table, and everything else that goes along with our upbringing, and then there are others who simply taught us a few bad habits our parents didn’t want us to gain, along with some secrets about our parents from when they were young.
Remember the ones who were part of your life, keep their memories alive simply by thinking of them once in a while, and smile when you think of that time they did that special thing that made them the unique individual they were, these people will always be in your heart and no one can take them away.
There are others who are now estranged from you, they were a major part of your life and now due to circumstances that you cannot change, you have completely lost touch with them, sometimes these people can be brought back into your life simply by reaching out to them, and others no matter how many times you reach out the door is slammed in your face again and again.
This is a hard time of year for families who live far apart, it is also hard when you have lost a loved one and know they will not be there on Christmas morning, and it is heart wrenching when you know that an estranged child, parent, sibling, or any loved one although living happily elsewhere will not be part of your celebration.
If you have someone that you have lost touch with reach out to them, a simple phone call, email, Christmas card, or if possible a knock on the door can bridge the gap between you and them, if you get the door slammed in your face so to say, I know for a fact that it is heartbreaking but at least you tried, and sometimes you just have to step back and accept the fact that nothing you do will bring them back.
I am not suggesting stalking anyone, just thinking if we reach out to at least one loved one that we no longer communicate with, bury the hatchet so to say by accepting responsibility for not staying in touch, and open the door to those you may be angry with but no longer know why, this simple act of love just may clear the air for you both, and if it doesn’t then nothing is lost, at least you opened the door.
I have loved ones who are there for me, and I have loved ones who I miss more than they will ever know, I have a good wife with Cindy, children who are close that I love dearly, and a grandson who I know in fact hung the moon, just thinking of them makes me smile because their unconditional love helps mend any heartbreaks I may feel when I think of the ones who should be part of our celebration but I fear will never again be.