What can you do? As a teenager we think we know it all we just know our parents and their friends are ancient, so with our vast knowledge we find a partner and get married, then we have a couple of children who we try to the best of our ability to raise in the exact same manner that our ancient parents taught us. This works well for a lot of people and I am proud to see people that are making it look so easy and perfect because most of us know this is not as easy as it looks.
For some of us other folks we end up with a spouse who turns out to be someone other than the one we married, getting married as a teen you grow up fast and make quite a few mistakes along the way because you are learning that life is not always a piece of cake, I wont try to convince you that I was always perfect as I am now but to tell the truth I am still learning, life is kind of like on the job training but with life about the time you get it all figured out then it’s too late, or is it?
Here is the deal why is it that when someone decides that marriage just isn’t fun anymore and wants a change over to the new “friend” they found and wants everything at your home to be the same “just without you in the picture” why is it suitable for them to brainwash the children so to say to make the parent left out of the picture the bad guy and why as the one left out are we so stupid to allow it to happen.
About fifteen years later after trying to sit back and not make anyone upset now here I am, the kids don’t want to talk because “you are the bad parent who left”, evidently I have come to find out that I did a lot of stuff I just don’t remember, kind of like a “Made For TV Movie” and someone is sitting back smiling because she thinks she has won. Sad thing is there is no winner here, your statement “I can go into court and say anything I want and they will believe me” got you where you are today thinking you have won and I hope you are proud of yourself for making our children believe what ever stories you exaggerated to the point that made them hate the bloodline that is pumping through their veins, this actually made them the losers and I actually feel sorry for you.
Fifteen years later I am happily married to a woman I started dating after my divorce was final, we will be married thirteen years in July, I am happy with my life and look forward to living out my life with the woman I Love, there will always be thoughts in my head on how I should have done things different to keep my boys in my life because I do still Love them, but what can you do? All I can do now is to be proud of the time I had with them and to also be proud that The Good Lord gave me someone who Loves me that is not looking for greener pastures at the risk of ruining our children’s well being.
That's a sad story...I hope someday you will reconnect with your children. I've seen the same thing happen to a relative (the kids are now grown) and they not only refuse contact with their father but grandparents and entire side of the family, all because their mother chose a different life...so sad.
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