♪ My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin' 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you dad
You know I'm gonna be like you ♫
Some of us have grown up hard and fast and Lord knows we have all made mistakes, but growing up and having kids does not come with an instruction manual, it’s kind of hard to look back and wish you had spent more time with your kids or done things differently, even though you know in your heart that you did the best you could at the time. Kids grow up and are directed into a path of their own and there is nothing to be done that will change the things that happened in the past and even harder to change things that didn’t happen, a lot of accusations are made at times and for those who make accusations it is good to be truthful, for those who were wronged by a bad parent or anyone else stand your ground and don’t allow yourself to be a victim.
♫ My son turned ten just the other day
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw", I said "Not today
I got a lot to do", he said, "That's ok"
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him" ♪
You play with your kids and teach them the lessons you learned growing up and hope they become more successful than you ever were, you pray that they are happy with the career field they choose and the spouse they end up with, kids are a blessing and as they grow they can hurt you when they make fun of you or say things like “I will never do the things you have done” or “yes I’d like to hang around but I have things to do”, “stay in the car while I go in the store I don’t want you to embarrass me” or one of the worse is “You were never there for me, why do I need you now”, no matter how hateful they are you still love them no matter what and you are proud of them no matter how they treat you, you just pray for the time they grow up and have a little time for you.
♪ Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say,
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and said with a smile
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?" ♫
My kids have all done good with the decisions they have made, I am a lot closer to some of the kids than others as you all can see, the reasons some of you know, and for those who don’t it really doesn’t matter because there is nothing to be done that can change it. I know everyone has a plan for their lives and will do just like I did when I was growing and learning how to deal with life, growing up and dealing with life is to simply learn from folks who have been there and learn from your mistakes because contrary to popular belief there are none of us who are perfect, and we all do make mistakes. Also contrary to popular belief all of us descend from our ancestors no matter what name you choose to carry and no matter what you do those family traits shine through in your looks and actions, you may not think so but for most of us we look like our parents and it has always occurred to me that my boys are a whole lot like me, especially in their looks and mannerisms.
♫ I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job's a hassle and kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad
It's been sure nice talking to you"
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me ♪
My boy was just like me ♪
So next time you see your parents in town take time to visit with them if you can find it in your heart, for those who live close to your parents take time to give them a visit and listen to what they have to say, if you have had a falling out with one of your children find a way around it if possible and take them out for a cup of coffee to talk it over, some of us are estranged from loved ones for reasons we can’t control and there is no fixing some of the things that have happened for a lot of people, but if there is any possibility of making amends with someone you love make that attempt rather than being rude and holding a grudge so to say over things that can be let go, if things can be hashed out over a cup of coffee and the offer has been made then it is worth a try because if you don’t it will be too late one day when they are gone and looking in the mirror you see their face looking back at you, making you wish you had taken them up on that cup of coffee.
♪ And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home son?
I don't know when, but we'll get together then Dad
You know we'll have a good time then ♫