Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Not Suggesting Stalking

Life has a way of changing, people you know and love vanish from your life leaving you with a hopeless feeling of loss, and others come into your life filling you with hope and joy, the struggle within yourself can get your emotions so mixed up that you can actually overlook the people right in front of your face while searching for the ones who will never be there again.

I have lost a lot of loved ones due to death and there is absolutely nothing you can do to bring them back, remembering the good times and laughing at the pranks and jokes these loved ones pulled are blessings, there are loved ones who taught us how to live a full life, they taught us to read the Bible, respect our elders, keep our elbows off the table, and everything else that goes along with our upbringing, and then there are others who simply taught us a few bad habits our parents didn’t want us to gain, along with some secrets about our parents from when they were young.

Remember the ones who were part of your life, keep their memories alive simply by thinking of them once in a while, and smile when you think of that time they did that special thing that made them the unique individual they were, these people will always be in your heart and no one can take them away.

There are others who are now estranged from you, they were a major part of your life and now due to circumstances that you cannot change, you have completely lost touch with them, sometimes these people can be brought back into your life simply by reaching out to them, and others no matter how many times you reach out the door is slammed in your face again and again.

This is a hard time of year for families who live far apart, it is also hard when you have lost a loved one and know they will not be there on Christmas morning, and it is heart wrenching when you know that an estranged child, parent, sibling, or any loved one although living happily elsewhere will not be part of your celebration.

If you have someone that you have lost touch with reach out to them, a simple phone call, email, Christmas card, or if possible a knock on the door can bridge the gap between you and them, if you get the door slammed in your face so to say, I know for a fact that it is heartbreaking but at least you tried, and sometimes you just have to step back and accept the fact that nothing you do will bring them back.

I am not suggesting stalking anyone, just thinking if we reach out to at least one loved one that we no longer communicate with, bury the hatchet so to say by accepting responsibility for not staying in touch, and open the door to those you may be angry with but no longer know why, this simple act of love just may clear the air for you both, and if it doesn’t then nothing is lost, at least you opened the door.

I have loved ones who are there for me, and I have loved ones who I miss more than they will ever know, I have a good wife with Cindy, children who are close that I love dearly, and a grandson who I know in fact hung the moon, just thinking of them makes me smile because their unconditional love helps mend any heartbreaks I may feel when I think of the ones who should be part of our celebration but I fear will never again be.

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  1. Aww Jimmy, I hear a lot of sadness in this post. I'm sure you have done all you can on your end to mend any riffs. That's about all we can do. Hope you have a wonderful holiday with Cindy.

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    1. Hi Bijoux, You are right sometimes that is all we can do, I am looking forward to a very happy Christmas and wish the same for you my good friend.

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  2. I have someone that I rarely see, unless they need something. (and I'm always there, Johnny on the spot) Once the need has passed, they vanish until the need arises again. I'm trying to make my peace with the fact things aren't likely to change, but it's so hard.

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    1. Hey Ms. A, I think we all have someone exactly like this and even though it is hard you are right when you say that you are trying to make peace with the fact that it will always be the same, just remember you are a good person for being there for them and in my experience this will never change either :)

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  3. You cope well, my friend, I feel it from your words. I did once have a friend who only came once in a blue moon, usually when she needed advice, it was always me that had to go to her. Once when I didn't make it I was told off and there ended the friendship - something I always regret.

    This year, although I will not see them, I have the good wishes of two long-lost grown-up grandsons. You can imagine the euphoria in our house.

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    1. Hi Valerie, Even though it is a regret to lose a friend in this manner just makes you wonder if she ever was really a friend, Thank you for your kind words my friend I do appreciate you.

      Receiving the good wishes from your grandsons is indeed a blessing, too bad you will not be seeing them but glad they were at least in touch.

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    1. Thank you my friend, it is good to have you around.

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  5. "Remember the ones who were part of your life, keep their memories alive simply by thinking of them once in a while, and smile when you think of that time they did that special thing that made them the unique individual they were, these people will always be in your heart and no one can take them away."

    Jimmy, you speak so much truth in this post. This time of the year, in as much as it can be a happy time, can also be melancholy for those who either have estranged relationships; experienced a recent death of a loved one; or even illness. As a matter of fact, I have two friends right now who are experiencing serious health issues.

    As Bijoux shared, I'm sure you have done all you can on your end to mend any riffs. That's about all we can do.

    Wonderful post, buddy.

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    1. Thank You Ron, it is a hard time of year and especially at this time I do question myself on what I did wrong or what else can I do to change things, while in the back of my mind I know nothing is going to change, but man it is hard to let go.

      My prayers are there for your friends, I hope their health issues turn for the better and my prayers are also there for you to help them cope through their illnesses.

      Thank You Buddy it is a blessing to have you around.

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  6. Your words are heartfelt and really express the meaning of the season. Take care. I miss hearing from you.

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    1. Thank You Stephen, I appreciate you my friend and will stop by soon, glad to have you in our corner.

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  7. This is a rough time of year for a lot of people. Good advice here.

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    1. Hi Abby, Yes indeed a rough time for a lot of folks, it would be nice if we could make it a little better for one person just by reaching out.

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  8. Spot on, Jimmy. Absolutely spot on. God bless.

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  9. Wise words, Jimmy!

    I very rarely get homesick, but during the Christmas season I tend to miss my brothers and sisters. One year, we skyped on my sister's laptop - they put the computer on the dining room table in the spot where I would have sat (had I been there), and we all drank wine. They said it was almost like having me there. Tee hee.

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    1. That is such a good idea, and sitting the laptop in your spot makes it even better :)

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  10. Good advise, Jimmy. Like everyone else, some people have left my life for one reason or another, and thinking about them can be bittersweet. When it comes to those who are still living but no longer a part of our lives, I find solace in remembering that not all people are meant to be with us for a lifetime. Some pass through our lives for a particular reason, some hang around for a "season," but those who are with us through thick and thin? They more than make up for the ones who move on.

    A very Merry Christmas to you, Cindy, and the rest of your family.

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    1. Thank You Susan, You are so right and I wish a Merry Christmas for you and your family

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