How do you fix something that is not in your control? And why should you worry about other peoples problems even though you have been there and know how the outcome was for you, it’s no skin off your nose so to say so why do you waste time worrying about it, and another thing why do you fret and worry about the way the kids are struggling to make themselves independent from you, because they are now adults so it’s not your concern anymore, do you just put it out of your mind and enjoy life without them?
No this is not how life works, most things in life are not within our control and all we can do is sit back and enjoy the ride, but coming from a Parents standpoint, an Uncles standpoint, a Friends standpoint, or wherever I am standing at the time I want all of you young-un’s to pull up a chair and listen to “Uncle Jimmy’s” rant and rave session, if I am your Uncle then you can call me Uncle Jimmy, if I am not then you can call me Uncle Jimmy too, and if you have my phone number then call me.
Life sucks sometimes, but sometimes it only sucks if you allow it to, we all fall in love and get ourselves into situations that improve our lives drastically, and sometimes we get ourselves into situations that make us wonder why all of our friends, family, and people we don’t even know are telling us things like “Boy you need to make a change”, “Man how did you get mixed up with this girl---Walk away”, or “I love you Man and I don’t want to be coming to your funeral anytime soon”, now whose fault is it when life sucks now, it’s not actually all the people telling you these things, it is the man in the mirror so take a look at the scars, bumps, and bruises that life is giving you and make some changes, sit down and listen to your parents and those who are trying to help you, look at the source of your problems and ask that person who is causing the problems to move on before they end up getting you killed, your Parents are not on your butt because they want to be, it’s because they Love You and “Uncle Jimmy” Loves you too.
For others life has sucked and it is going in a direction that looks pretty good now, you have been down a road exactly like I described above and you finally got out of it, and now you are scared it is going to happen again, well life does go in circles but the circles are not that tight, and this time you are going to be just fine, I have a good feeling about this and you need to jump off the fence and keep moving in the direction you are right now because it is the right one. Sometimes you have to take a chance and trust those around you who are slapping you on the back and complimenting how good you are doing, you have to trust the fact that the advice they are giving you is from their heart and they know what they are talking about because they have been there, your parents are not on your butt because they want to be, it’s because they Love you, OK call me “Uncle Jimmy” if you want to but the truth is I Love You too.
And others are in a new situation, just out on their own and everyone is telling you what color you need to paint that wall, when you need to paint that wall, or which aisle the stuff you should be buying is on at the store, you are overwhelmed and think everything you are doing is wrong, you just know everyone is looking over your shoulder waiting for you to make a mistake, and the repeated calls telling you who to call and what to say is for your own good, and how would I know this? It’s because I have been there and want you to know that you are going to be just fine. Guess what? Your Parents are not on your butt because they like it there, they are there because they Love you, and guess who else Loves You—Yes that would be “Uncle Jimmy”
Growing up is hard, and everyone who tells you what they think, are not doing so because they think you are wrong, even though sometimes you just may be, and they are only here to guide you because they care, everyone who gives advice is not a busybody and everyone who tells you what they think is not trying to get in your business, sometimes it’s just because they can see where you are going simply due to the fact they have been there before, and looking at the “Big Picture” sometimes comes from outside the box, which can’t be seen when you are too close.
The above situations sound pretty serious and they are, if you are having doubts, fears, bumps, bruises, or even worse, there is always someone who has been there before you, and they are the ones looking you in the face with their tear filled eyes trying to give you guidance, sometimes these tears are from fear, sadness, or joy but they all carry the exact same message, they are saying I Love You and I want to help you, so now it’ up to you to listen to your Parents, Friends, and Loved Ones because all of them know you, and if you give them any trouble they will call “Uncle Jimmy”